Hur män i den moderna världen, lärs att hata kvinnor

En intressant reflektion, över hur världens män lärs att hata kvinnor:

http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html

Jag tror inte att detta är hela sanningen men jag tror att mycket av det stämmer. Män i världen, som tex inte har tillgång till manlig porr, manlig film, tv, litteratur osv, lärs av andra män i sin närhet, att hata kvinnor. Hatet förs över från den ena generationen män, till nästa.
Samhället, det sociala trycket och könsroller, som styrs nästan enbart av män, hjälper till...

Kanske har mäns hat mot kvinnor, något med moderskapet att göra? Alla män har en gång varit beroende av en kvinna (sin mor) för överlevnad. Kanske inser män, att ingen kvinna någonsin kommer att älska dem, som mamma gjorde? Kanske är det därför, vissa män blir svartsjuka när deras kvinnliga partners själva blir mammor och männen ser denna ovillkorliga, gränslösa kärlek som kvinnor känner till sina barn och som män aldrig mer kommer att få uppleva från någon annan kvinna, än sin egen mor?

Å andra sidan håller jag med i påståendet att det är sex, inte kärlek, som de allra flesta män önskar sig från kvinnliga partners. Det är den manliga sexualiteten som styr det mesta i mäns liv och den främsta anledningen till att män i alla tider har stängt in kvinnor och fråntagit kvinnor deras frihet och självständiga liv är, att säkra mäns tillgång till sex med kvinnor. Män vid makten, har samtidigt fråntagit män valet att ha sex med andra män, för att stilla mäns sexuella behov. Män har skapat homofobin, trots att vi alla vet, att män har haft sex med män, i alla tider. I dåtid, i krig, i fängelserna, i lumpen, i tonåren och till och med inom världens manliga, religiösa samfund, där inga kvinnor finns att tillgå.

"It's like that for most men, most of the time. We're starving, and all women are various types of food. Only instead of food, it's sex."

We were told that society owed us a hot girl.

"And now you see the problem. From birth we're taught that we're owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we're heroes for just getting through our day.

So it's very frustrating, and I mean frustrating to the point of violence, when we don't get what we're owed. A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It's why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won't win him sex. It's why we go to "slut" and "whore" as our default insults -- we're not mad that women enjoy sex. We're mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.

Yes, the women in these stories are being portrayed as wonderful and beautiful and perfect. But remember, there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them."

We were trained, from birth, to see you as decoration.

"Yes, even in that setting, when judging a female for a position on the highest court in the land, our instinct is still to judge her suitability as a sex partner. It's the first thing we notice. And you could just write that off as a bunch of douches being shallow, but then you have to realize how all of society has conformed to this. Forget about objectification in the media or fashion industry -- go to a diner, they've got the pretty girl waiting tables. Go to a department store, they'll have a pretty girl selling you pants.

See, that's the difference. With men, there are some scenarios where it stops mattering how he looks. With women, it always matters.

Her role in society or level of accomplishment doesn't matter. Even if she's a damned candidate for the Supreme Court, the female always has a dual role: to function as a person, and to act as decor.
And we get pissed if she doesn't do her job. Check out any article about a female celebrity who has gained weight. Here's literally the first one I found on Google, a blog post about how fat Christina Aguilera has gotten. Check the comments:

"fuck her! I have a full-time job, go to grad school full-time, cook at home every night and still find time to get my ass to the gym. lazy ass fat bitch ..."

Don't get me wrong -- if it's a male celebrity in the article, you'll get lots of people making fun of his fatness. If it's a female, you get anger.

She owes it to us to be pretty. That's the social contract as we've understood it from the time we were toddlers.

And it's a no-win situation. We hate you if you're ugly; if you're pretty, then ..."

 

 

 

We feel powerless

"We're starving, and all women are various types of food. Only instead of food, it's sex.

Yes, when a male writes a female, he assumes that she spends every moment thinking about the size of her breasts and what they are doing. "Janet walked her boobs across the city square. 'I can see them staring at my boobs,' she thought, boobily." He assumes that women are thinking of themselves the same way we think of them

So where you see a world in which males dominate the boards of the Fortune 500, and own Congress, and sit at the head of all but a handful of the world's nations, men see themselves as utterly helpless. Because all of those powerful people (läs män/NBT) only became powerful because they heard that women like power.

This is really the heart of it, right here. This is why no amount of male domination will ever be enough, why no level of control or privilege or female submission will ever satisfy us. We can put you under a burqa, we can force you out of the workplace -- it won't matter. You're still all we think about, and that gives you power over us. And we resent you for it."